Archive for December, 2012

December 24, 2012

Thrive During the Holidays!

by Dave P.

The holidays can be stressful for people with SAD, but there is no reason to suffer. We can thrive during the holidays and enjoy family, friends, co-workers, well-wishers, and other social contacts by adapting a positive attitude.

Happiness has been scientifically proven to be contagious. When you’re happy, you make others happier, who in turn make even more people happier.

Show gratitude for the people in your life. Unless you’re dealing with a psychopath, sociopath, or total narcissist, everyone has some redeeming qualities. Focus on the good as apposed to what you find annoying. It will make you happier as well as the people around you.

Being self-conscious is actually selfish behavior. It makes you anxious, it makes those around you anxious, and it acts as a people repellent. Your discomfort can also make you a target for bullies. Being self-conscious is a lose-lose proposition for everyone involved. So why do it?

Instead of being self-focused, try to offer something of value to the people you encounter. It can be something as simple as a smile, a joke, an interesting story, or a helping hand. Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling down, sometimes all it takes is a smile from someone to change your day and get you out of your funk? You can do the same for others.

As Plato once said, “Life should be lived as play.” Any time you enter a social situation, tell yourself, “This is my life and I’m going to have a good time.” You’ll be happier, and you’ll make the world a little bit better by doing so. We can find meaning in making the world a better place, even if you’ve improved the day of just one person.

And always remember: This is your life. Be the star of your life. You are not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations.

Check out our new website! We’re planning two workshops for January: one specifically for social anxiety and another for overcoming public speaking anxiety. Come join us at the workshops. Thrive in life!